Let Go of the Narrative

Arguing causes stress on the mind, it doesn’t matter if you are right or wrong. It is a source of combativeness, defensiveness, and escalation. Nobody wins regardless of who is right. Stepping back from the situation and letting others control the narrative is the best thing you can do for your conscience. Let people think what they want to think. You know the truth. The truth is whatever you personally believe in. There is no need to own a public narrative if you know your own truth.

The fact of the matter is many people cannot be persuaded by logic. People believe based upon how they have been affected by something, not by a statistic. They may weigh reasoning differently than you. Others simply cannot be persuaded. So let it go, let them have their cake. Whether or not they are proven false has no bearing on your life. Telling someone ¬†“I told you so” will only double their defensive position. Calling them a fool will only increase tension. You will be the fool if you think they will give you credit for being right in the first place. It is not your job to make sure someone else “sees the light”.

And if it is you who happens to be wrong? You are human as well, are you not? Then you will be the defensive one, the argumentative one, the one with the damaged pride.¬†Regardless of whether you are right the argument will plague your mind. You will replay the facts in your mind. ‘How could they think such a ridiculous thing? How could they not see something so blatantly clear? And I didn’t even mention X, Y, and Z either. I could have made an even greater argument!’

Wrong. You don’t control their perspective. They do.

Obviously there are times in your life when you will have to take a stand. Your family, your core values, your fellow man. But be sure to only fight for what is absolutely necessary. Let your mind be free of all the senseless war of words that plagues our lives. Millions are caught up in controlling a narrative. They NEED to be “right”. Be someone who just doesn’t care about the narrative. Fight for only what you truly believe in and maintain your mindfulness. If you truly believe in something, live it, breathe it, eat it, and sleep it. Otherwise just get out of the way and focus on what is important to you.

So the next time you come upon a controversial topic. Don’t engage. Let it go. Let others control the narrative. The sun will still rise tomorrow. And your mind will be free enough to enjoy it.